Can Someone with Aspergers Become a Neurotypical?
The idea of someone with Asperger's syndrome becoming a neurotypical individual is a complex and often misunderstood topic. Autism, including Asperger's, is a neurological variation that involves differences in social interaction, communication, and behavior. It is important to understand that autism is not a condition to be overcome but a unique way of experiencing the world.
No: Autistic People Are Wired Differently
Autistic individuals are wired differently, and attempting to "remove," "grow out of," or "treat" autism is not realistic or appropriate. These differences are part of what makes us who we are. Many autistic people embrace their unique identity and find it enriching rather than a hindrance.
I am Autistic, and I Never Wished to Be Neurotypical: As an autistic person, I have never wished to become neurotypical. The very essence of who I am would disappear if I were to try to fit into a neurotypical mold. Autistic people have a rich understanding and appreciation of other autistic individuals, and I would cease to be authentic if I were to try to change.
Yes: Learning to Mask
Masking, or contextually adapting behavior and communication, is a phenomenon observed in many individuals, not just autistic ones. Masking involves acquiring and practicing social skills that may come naturally to neurotypicals. This is akin to learning how to behave in various social settings, such as small talk, business interactions, and family gatherings.
Factors Contributing to Masking
Maturity and Realization of the World: As individuals mature and start to face the realities of the adult world, they often learn to adapt and fit in. The teenage and early adult years can be characterized by rebellion and a sense of “specialness” or uniqueness. However, as one progresses, they may realize the importance of fitting in, maintaining employment, and keeping personal relationships intact. These realizations can lead to a greater effort to mask certain behaviors and fit into social norms.
Therapy, Social Skills Training, and Support: Individuals with Asperger's syndrome can benefit from various interventions, including therapy, social skills training, and support from family and friends. These resources can help them navigate social challenges more effectively and lead fulfilling lives. While masking is not a substitute for these interventions, it can sometimes be a necessary part of the journey.
Neurodiversity and Acceptance
Valuing Neurodiversity: Neurodiversity refers to the variation in neurological differences among individuals, such as autism. It emphasizes the value of these differences rather than viewing them as deficits. Autistic individuals have unique strengths, such as pattern recognition, detailed observation, and a tendency to focus on specific interests. Recognizing and valuing these traits can lead to a more inclusive society that appreciates diversity.
Challenges and Navigating Social Situations: While autism presents challenges, many individuals with Asperger's syndrome can lead fulfilling lives and develop coping strategies. They may find ways to navigate social situations more comfortably. For example, they can learn how to manage conversations, understand social cues, and adapt their behavior to fit different contexts. This is not about becoming neurotypical but about finding a balance that allows them to thrive.
Conclusion: As someone with Asperger's syndrome, I have learned to mask certain behaviors and adapt to social norms. However, the core of who I am remains autistic. While it is possible to mask and navigate social situations more effectively, it is not the same as becoming neurotypical. The journey involves learning and adaptation, but it is not about erasing one's uniqueness.