Class and Behavior: Debunking the Myth of the Upper Middle Class
The assumption that individuals from the upper middle class are inherently more polite and mannerly is a common misconception. In my experience working at a hospital, I have observed behaviors from doctors who are considered part of the upper middle class that fall far short of acceptable conduct. From littering to disrespectful actions, it seems that class does not equate to good manners.
Unbecoming Behavior among Higher Class Individuals
Take, for instance, one doctor at the hospital who habitually threw peanut shells onto the carpet. Another doctor would casually place used gum underneath the desk. The doctor’s lounge was a rather dismal environment. This behavior does not necessarily reflect the refined and considerate nature often associated with upper class individuals. In reality, class is not determined by onersquo;s material status alone. It encompasses a broader way of life and behavior.
The True Meaning of 'Class'
John Molloy, in his book Molloys Live for Success, elaborates on the challenges of maintaining onersquo;s class status. He suggests that a person from a lower socio-economic background must be cautious for the rest of their life to never lose their temper in public. This is because such situations can reveal onersquo;s true class origin, regardless of their current status. Class is a journey and a mindset, not a fixed state defined by onersquo;s bank account.
No Class Is Exempt from Boorishness
It is crucial to understand that no socio-economic class has a monopoly on boorish behavior. Whether one is a member of the upper middle class, upper class, or even the working class, boorishness is a reflection of an individualrsquo;s personality and demeanor rather than their financial status. Wealthy individuals, including those who have been wealthy for generations, can exhibit boorish behavior just as much as those from modest backgrounds can exhibit politeness and graciousness.
Roots of Boorishness
Boorishness is often rooted in arrogance, a lack of empathy, and an indifference to others. These traits are more indicative of onersquo;s attitude and upbringing than their level of financial comfort. While some might argue that the behavior of specific individuals, such as those in the honey boo-boo family or former President Donald Trump, as examples, does not reflect the entire upper middle class, these cases nonetheless highlight the variability in behavior across socio-economic groups.
In conclusion, class should be understood not only through material wealth but also through a personrsquo;s behavior and mindset. It is essential to challenge the notion that upper middle class individuals are inherently more refined and mannerly. Boorish behavior can be found in any socio-economic group, and it is not a defining characteristic of any particular class.