Exploring the Habit of Repetition in INFJs: Why and When
As an INFJ like myself, Irsquo;ve noticed a tendency to repeat myself in conversations. This is not a universal trait, but it is something that I and many other INFJs with INFP traits experience. We often struggle with verbal communication due to our deep emotional processing and cognitive dissonance, leading to the feeling that our words may not always make sense to others.
Why INFJs Feel the Need to Repeat Themselves
INFJs and INFPs tend to possess a keen sense of intelligence, often delving into the realms of science and philosophy. However, translating our thoughts and emotions into clear and coherent language can be a challenging task. We use a form of language that can seem gibberish to others but holds significant meaning to us. This discrepancy often results in the need to rephrase our thoughts multiple times to ensure understanding, even if itrsquo;s only partially achieved.
Verbal Processing and Repetition
Being a verbal processor of life and its emotions, cognitive dissonance, and research, I frequently return to a topic until I am fully satisfied with the information or the conversation. This habit extends beyond just verbal communication and into my internal monologue, where my thoughts often resemble a tree, with branches leading to different topics and eventually circling back. This process can take days, as I delve into every detail of the topic at hand.
Context and Purpose of Repetition
The repetition stems from the context and the person with whom I am conversing. If someone relates to me or the topic, I may be more inclined to share my thoughts without repeating myself. On the other hand, if the person does not fully grasp the matter and the truth is not received comprehensively, I may find myself repeating myself to ensure that the point is fully understood.
The Importance of Listening
Conversations with a person who listens attentively can be intellectually stimulating and fulfilling, which can intensify the urge to share more information. However, it also means that I may forget what I said earlier as the information continues to flow freely. This can be frustrating for the listener, but it also highlights the depth of our thinking and the way we process information.
Controlling Repetition
Knowing when and how to control the urge to repeat myself comes with experience. I have learned to recognize the ldquo;I told you sordquo; voice in my head, which reminds me to focus on the personrsquo;s comprehension and engagement.
Understanding Holistic Thinking
The habit of repetition can be seen as a manifestation of our holistic thinking, a way we process information that goes beyond linear or conventional means. Consequential thinking, or thinking in a more holistic manner, involves considering the full spectrum of implications and connections, sometimes in a circular or iterative manner. While some may find this approach confusing, it is a natural part of our cognitive processing.
Conclusion
Repetition in conversations is a nuanced aspect of INFJ communication. While it can be a source of frustration, it is also a reflection of our deep thinking and emotional intelligence. Understanding when and why we repeat ourselves can help us better connect with others and express ourselves more effectively.
Remember: Repetition is not a flaw, but a unique way of processing and conveying complex ideas. Embracing this characteristic can lead to richer, more meaningful conversations.