Is Talking to Oneself Abnormal Behavior?
No, not necessarily. Talking to oneself, often referred to as self-talk, is a common and healthy practice. While some may engage in it for productive reasons, it can also be a sign of concern. This article explores various perspectives and scenarios where self-talk is both normal and beneficial.
Self-Talk: A Common Human Behavior
Most people talk to themselves internally, whether verbalized or in their mind's eye. This is a natural part of human cognition. However, some individuals may engage in this behavior out loud, which can attract attention and even lead to concerns about mental health.
My great-grandmother, an advocate of inner monologue, would share, ldquo;Im neurodivergent for me, this means talking to myself at home to keep myself on task.rdquo; She would create silly songs to help her remember mundane tasks. However, she would mask this behavior in public due to fear of judgment.
Why Talk to Oneself?
Self-talk can be useful in organizing thoughts and assist in remembering tasks. For instance, my friendrsquo;s husband read aloud to himself when the surrounding noise was disruptive. This helped him concentrate. Similarly, talking to oneself can serve as a motivational tool, allowing individuals to communicate directly with their subconscious.
Healthy Self-Talk vs. Self-Reflection
While self-talk is generally healthy, it is important to differentiate between self-talk and self-reflection. Self-talk that reassures oneself may become self-dilatory (self-canceling). On the other hand, self-talk that inspires and motivates can be highly beneficial. It allows for a connection with onersquo;s whole being. However, self-talk should be conducted in appropriate places and at appropriate times. Avoid talking over others or disturbing them.
Being silent and secretive is detrimental to both oneself and the world around. Engaging in verbal self-talk, when appropriate, is a mentally healthy practice. It encourages transparency and self-awareness.
Self-Talk and Mental Health
Rather than being a sign of mental illness, self-talk can be a signal of mental health. Not engaging in self-talk may indicate a lack of mental robustness. Allowing oneself to have a heart-to-heart with oneself is profoundly healthy. Share jokes with yourself, and donrsquo;t be afraid to laugh. Avoid allowing others to dictate your humor. Skippins on Gilliganrsquo;s Island is not an authority on laughter.
Self-Talk and Creativity
For creatives, self-talk is an integral part of the creative process. However, just because someone talks to themselves doesnrsquo;t mean they are or need to be a creative. Creativity is a unique trait that not everyone possesses. Some people engage in self-talk to stimulate imagination and focus.
Personally, I am aphantasic, meaning I cannot create visual or auditory images in my mind. My thinking therefore requires words and self-talk. However, this is not unique to aphantasics. Many people who talk to themselves do so in words to facilitate their cognitive processes.
Self-talk is a normal and beneficial behavior. It can be a signal of mental health and a tool for personal growth. Embrace it, but do so mindfully and in appropriate circumstances.