Navigating Family Tensions: A Guardian's Journey to Emotional Health and Growth

I have a 30-year-old brother I am 40 years old, and everything was fine between us until 2018. My mother #emotional-abuse manipulated my brother against me, telling him he could get the house and the entire family wealth if he evicted his unmarried, grown-up sister who had brought him up. Guess what? My brother is doing just that. He has harmed my sister significantly: hacked her laptop, disconnected her Wi-Fi, and stopped her career, created marriage hurdles, and physically abused her. He also cuts off the supplies and resources that I need to sustain my wellbeing.

My advice to you, if you are in a similar situation, is to take great care of yourself and take some care of your brother. Do not broadcast what I have said, but remember, you are your own caretaker. I also suffered health issues and experienced emotional turmoil because of my mother's neglect and my brother's actions. I am still in shock at the cruelty, harmful intentions, and criminal behavior from my mother and brother.

No Scaring, but Preparing for the Worst

As of 3rd August 2022, I was abused brutally by my mother. This bully has a bodyguard-like accomplice. My brother, whom I used to care for as if he were my own child, was turned into a monster by my mother. However, I remind you to focus on your own wellbeing and personal development. Do not try to be the best sister, as that does not serve you or your brother well. Instead, focus on improving yourself in your passion, be it your career, and take care of your mind and health.

To my brother, I took care of him, washed his potty, and loved him just like my mother taught me. However, it seems he never valued this care and only wanted convenience. He hated the things I bought for him, like burgers, and preferred being treated with pizza by my cousin's brother. My brother found faults that didn't exist with his sister and belittled me in front of our cousins, claiming I forced him to study. It seems my actions backfired, and now, despite all my effort, my brother views me with anger and negativity.

Understanding and Embracing Discrimination in Family Life

Fatherly love often favors sons, and daughters are often discriminated against even when they are older. My brother received the best of everything, and now at 30, he is ruining our family's happiness with his violent nature, greed, and ignorance. I am not financially dependent on anyone, just the roof I need. I challenged the notion of being the 'best' sister, as this designation did not make my brother happier or improve his behavior.

I see anger and negativity in him when they pass by, and when he pushes, he becomes a monster. He threatens to murder me, rape me, and even uses his shoe against me. It's crucial to understand that a bully neighbor can be better than a bad brother. A bad sibling can create emotional turmoil and long-lasting scars that may never fully heal.

Tips for Emotional and Physical Safety

Focus on Personal Development: Devote time and effort to your hobbies, career, and personal interests. Taking Care of Your Mind and Physical Health: Engage in regular exercises, healthy eating habits, and maintaining mental health through therapy or support groups. Seek Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or professionals for emotional and practical support. Build Boundaries: Establish clear boundaries with harmful individuals in your life and learn to enforce them. Professional Help: If the situation is escalating, consider seeking legal advice or protection.

In conclusion, while I have had a difficult experience, I urge you to prioritize your wellbeing and surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Under no circumstances should you feel responsible for your brother's negative actions.