Navigating Name and Pronoun Requests with Your New School's Teachers
Transitioning to a new school can be a daunting experience, especially when you want your teachers to use a different name and pronouns that reflect your personal identity. It’s important to approach this situation with confidence and clarity. Here are some steps to make the process smoother and ensure that your wishes are respected by your teachers.
1. Choosing the Right Time
Selecting the appropriate moment to discuss your request is crucial. A good time would be during office hours or after class. Avoid approaching your teachers when they are busy. This ensures that you receive their full attention and understanding.
2. Being Direct and Clear
When the moment is right, introduce your request directly and clearly. Begin the conversation by stating your intention. Here’s an example of how you might start the conversation:
‘Excuse me, [Teacher's Name]. I was wondering if you could call me by my preferred name, [Your Preferred Name], and use the pronouns [Your Pronouns].’
3. Explaining Your Request
Provide a brief explanation about why this is important to you. This can help your teachers understand the significance of respecting your identity. Here’s an example of how to explain your request:
‘I have transitioned and I feel it’s important that I am referred to by my chosen name and pronouns to help me build confidence and feel included in the classroom environment. ’
4. Providing Context if Comfortable
If you feel comfortable, you might share some background information to help your teachers understand your journey. However, remember, it is okay to keep some of this personal information private.
‘I would prefer not to go into details but I’ve been using these names and pronouns for [time period, e.g., since the beginning of the year], and it helps me feel more authentic and respected. ’
5. Preparing for Questions
Some teachers may have questions about your name or pronouns. It’s important to be prepared to answer them. However, remember that it’s okay to politely state that you prefer not to share more personal details.
‘Thank you for asking. While I would prefer not to go into detail, it’s important to me that I am addressed by my preferred name and pronouns. ’
6. Following Up
Address any potential forgetfulness or mistakes gently and decisively. This might involve a brief reminder. Here’s an example:
‘[Teacher's Name], just a quick reminder, I’m [Your Preferred Name] and I use [Your Pronouns].’
7. Considering Alternative Methods
If speaking in person feels too intimidating, consider writing a brief note or email to your teachers with the same information. This can provide a formal and written record of your request.
‘Dear [Teacher's Name], my name is [Your Preferred Name] and I use the pronouns [Your Pronouns]. I am hoping you can help me feel more included by using these names and pronouns. Thank you for your support.’
8. Seeking Support
If you are feeling nervous about the conversation, consider seeking support. Talking to a friend or a trusted staff member can give you the confidence you need to broach the subject. Their support can also be reassuring if issues arise.
Remember, schools are generally committed to creating safe and inclusive environments for all students. Most teachers are eager to support students and will respect your wishes once they understand the importance of respecting your identity.
Conclusion
In conclusion, navigating name and pronoun requests with your new school’s teachers can be a sensitive yet important step in building your identity and feeling respected in your educational environment. By following these steps and seeking support as needed, you can ensure that your choices are respected and that you feel safe and valued in your new school.
Good luck!