Navigating Parental Strictness: A Journey of Love and Discipline
The question often arises: are you a strict parent? As someone who has navigated both sides of the strictness spectrum, I can offer some insights on balancing discipline with love and fairness. Parenting is a complex journey, and there's no one-size-fits-all approach.
Trust and Freedom
Some parents, like myself, believe in a balance of strictness and trust. My children are taught to be kind, courteous, and use good manners. I instill in them the importance of respecting others and themselves. When it comes to personal boundaries, I allow them to make their own choices. I ensure they have open and honest conversations, and I share stories of my abusive and toxic childhood without overwhelming them. This helps them understand the value of their safety and comfort.
Setting Boundaries and Expectations
Being strict about good manners, respect, and routines is essential in raising well-rounded children. It's important to teach them to appreciate what they have and to understand that good behavior often leads to better experiences. I set boundaries and expectations, but I am fair in my judgments. This balance helps them grow into responsible and respectful adults.
Family Values and Traditions
Family values and traditions are a cornerstone of our home. I believe in strict adherence to these values, including time management, behavior, and responsibility. When I reprimand my children, I always ensure that my approach is fair and not insolent. This discipline is not about control, but about guiding them toward becoming the best versions of themselves.
Beyond Childhood
Even as my children have grown into adulthood, I continue to play a significant role in their lives. My twin sons, now successful adults themselves, still seek my guidance and support. One is an attorney, and the other is a Navy doctor. When my younger son's wife passed away, he moved back to the area, and I have been a key figure in assisting with child care for our grandchildren. This role as a home room grandmother includes simple pleasures like 'October home room treats and sweets.'
Support and Assisting
While I provide affection and support, I also offer practical assistance. My husband and I help with child care, ensuring that my grandchildren have the attention and care they need. My youngest son, after the loss of his wife, has been emotionally challenged, and we have been there to support him. His law office is just next door to our restaurant, and he is beginning a new practice in the area, which is a testament to his resilience and determination.
Parenting is a unique journey, and it's essential to strike the right balance between love and discipline. By instilling strong values, setting clear boundaries, and offering support, we can guide our children towards success and fulfillment.
Remember, as a parent, you are not just shaping the future of an individual; you are shaping the future of a community. By being strict but fair, you are investing in a better tomorrow.
About the Author
As a parent and grandparent, I have learned that the journey of raising children is both challenging and rewarding. My experience spans from strict upbringing to nurturing a balance of discipline and love. I share my insights to help other parents navigate this journey with confidence and empathy.