Navigating the Challenges and Joys of Parenting a Highly Intelligent Child
As parents, we often navigate the journey of raising a child with a unique set of challenges and joys. One such experience is parenting a child who is significantly smarter than us. In this article, we will explore the experiences and feelings of both parents and their children in such circumstances, drawing from personal anecdotes and insights.
Common Experiences of Parents
It can be difficult to raise a child who is more academically or intellectually advanced than ourselves. We may feel like we are constantly being compared to them, and in some cases, feel that we fall short when it comes to providing the guidance and support they need. This is where the journey of parenting a child who is significantly smarter than us can bring both challenges and surprises.
A Different Perspective
In contrast to the conventional narrative, some parents share experiences where their children have surpassed their own cognitive abilities. For instance, one parent mentions that both their children are IITians (Indian Institutes of Technology) and very humble individuals. Their daughter is pursuing a PhD in structural engineering, showcasing her expertise and dedication in her field, while their son has completed an MS and is working as a software engineer in Sweden. Their respective children’s traits, such as being pet lovers and highly intelligent, highlight the multifaceted nature of their personalities.
Personal Journey with a Gifted Child
From my own experience, I recall having different emotions when it came to parenting a gifted child. I remember feeling a mix of pride and uncertainty. At the age of four, my IQ tested at 144, and I belong to Mensa. Growing up, I frequently found myself in a room of people with whom I could intellectually converse, a sensation that was often reinforced by my husband's declaration of me being the smartest person he knew.
Yet, my child, our son, taught himself to read at the age of 3?. By kindergarten, he was deciphering complex texts like Edith Hamilton's Mythology. By the time he entered first grade, he had read the entire Harry Potter series. Before starting kindergarten, he was already adept at basic arithmetic, and as a toddler, his fascination with space eclipsed my own knowledge of the solar system and distant stars.
Pride and Fears
Reflecting on these experiences, the feelings are predominantly overwhelming. I felt incredibly proud and also excited about his potential. However, the fear of no longer being perceived as the smartest person in the room emerged as a significant concern. My experience in school highlighted the challenges of handling highly gifted students, where resources were predominantly focused on low-achieving students, and the rest were for the general population. As a result, I found myself bored in sixth grade despite the opportunity to accelerate through classes.
Supporting High Achievers
Similar challenges continue in our current school district. Our child is enrolled in a charter school that operates at a pace roughly one full grade level ahead of the local public schools. Despite this, he remains bored. The journey of supporting a highly gifted child involves understanding their unique needs and finding ways to keep them engaged and challenged. This includes seeking out charter schools, private tutors, and even enrolling them in advanced courses where possible.
Conclusion
The experience of parenting a child who is significantly smarter than us can be a complex amalgamation of pride, fear, and excitement. While it presents unique challenges, it also offers an opportunity to witness our children's incredible potential and support them in their academic and personal journeys.