Reflections on My Children and the Boy Scouts: Absorbing Change
As a parent, the recent changes in the Boy Scouts of America (BSA) organization have led me to reflect on my decisions regarding my children’s participation in the the shift in allowing girls and the inclusion of gay leaders, I must admit my concerns and decisions have been complex. However, I believe that the program remains strong and, despite the changes, does not compromise the core values and values that I hold dear.
Decision-Making and Family Choices
I have allowed my daughter to join a Cub Scout pack and, for the moment, I also provided the option for her to join a “Scouts BSA” troop when she is older, one that is exclusively for girls. Additionally, my youngest son joined his sister’s Cub Scout pack, a move that has been smoothly navigated without any major concerns. This includes my consideration for my sons to join a Venture crew, a co-ed program, both in the near future.
The rationale behind my decisions is rooted in my understanding that both the BSA and Girl Scouts USA (GSUSA) offer robust and high-quality programs. Despite the changes, the core values of both organizations remain strong, and the safety policies and outdoor programs are equally extensive, if not more so, than before.
The Transition and Realities of Mixed Troops
The initial news of girls joining the Boy Scouts did prompt concern, especially when foreseeing potential challenges. However, over time, these concerns have been balanced with a more positive outlook. For instance, the possibility of my son being in a den with an older female den chief is a reality, but it is important to note that such practices have been around for decades, even long before the BSA’s inclusion of girls.
Another potential concern, the possibility of my son having a crush on a female Scout and dropping out, is not uncommon in any school or extracurricular program. With supervision and the support of both adult and peer leaders, these situations can be managed effectively. While the scenarios described are hypothetically worrisome, the assurance of adult supervision and guidance may actually offer more protection than in a school setting.
The Broader Context of Single-Sex Programs
Girls in Scouts BSA can follow the exact same program, with a few minor changes such as using "he or she" in literature. The Boy Scout Oath and Scout Law remain just as impactful, ensuring that the values instilled through these programs are not diminished. Both organizations emphasize personal growth, community service, and outdoor adventures, which are beneficial to all participants.
It is worth noting that both BSA and GSUSA have strong policies regarding safety and personal integrity. The notion that girls in Scouts BSA might lead to negative outcomes is a stretch, as the focus remains on the positive aspects of the program rather than the potential for distractions or discomfort.
Conclusion
While change can be difficult to embrace, especially for those of us who grew up with the traditional military-style scouting, the reality is that both organizations continue to provide valuable experiences for young people. The inclusion of girls has not diminished the core values that made the Boy Scouts iconic. In fact, it has opened up the program to a broader and more diverse audience, allowing all young people to benefit from the rich heritage of scouting.