Reflections on a Lost Skill: The Journey Back to Confidence

In this article, we delve into the journey of a former public speaking enthusiast who struggled with confidence and felt inferior due to the high level of talent in his new environment. Through a series of challenges and realizations, the author learns that true self-confidence comes from accepting one's weaknesses and actively seeking to overcome them. Today, he finds new confidence and joy in sharing his thoughts through a personal blog.

From Early Success to a Standstill

Until the 10th standard, I was known for my public speaking skills and enjoyed a lot of appreciation for my conversation abilities. My enthusiasm extended to a wide range of extracurricular activities, including acting and debating, where I was exceptionally confident. It was a period of exceptional confidence and clear academic success.

However, the transition to the 11th standard brought a significant change. Joining a new school, I was struck by the high level of talent among my peers. I felt inferior and lacked the confidence to compete with individuals who excelled both academically and in extracurricular activities. My response was to focus my entire effort on my studies, at the cost of neglecting other interests. This decision had mixed results; while I managed to secure decent grades, some of my contemporaries continued to excel in multiple areas.

Academic Years and Self-Reflection

After two years, I enrolled in college, where the competition was even more fierce, with students from all over the state. I felt constantly overshadowed and increasingly mediocre. My introversion often made me appear cold and arrogant, as highlighted by a fellow student during my final year in college. Despite the challenges, I chose to focus on academics and career prospects, which became a coping mechanism.

During my post-graduate studies, I experienced similar feelings of intimidation and isolation. I distanced myself from others, solely focusing on studies and job prospects. The root of my discomfort was a misguided belief that talent was the sole determinant of success. This preoccupation with academic achievement often resulted in merely average grades and job prospects.

The Journey Back to Self-Confidence

The turning point came when I realized that there will always be exceptional individuals, and one cannot avoid this reality. Instead of running away from my weaknesses, I started to accept them. My epiphany led me to embrace social interactions and engage more openly with others.

One of the most liberating decisions I made was to start writing a personal blog. Within a year, I began to voice my opinions and present my arguments effectively. The confidence I gained from this experience has been transformative. I am now more socially engaged, generous in complimenting others, and a happier person overall.

Conclusion

Public speaking and participation in extracurricular activities fostered my sense of confidence and achievement. The journey from a standing ovation to feeling invisible was painful but necessary. Through self-reflection and embracing new challenges, I found a way to regain my confidence and find joy in sharing my thoughts.

Here's to embracing our weaknesses and evolving as individuals.

Key Takeaways:

Public speaking can significantly boost one's confidence and social skills. Accepting one's weaknesses is essential for personal growth. A positive approach to social interactions can lead to new opportunities and fulfillment.

For those who share similar experiences or want to improve their public speaking skills, consider joining local clubs, participating in competitions, or starting your own blog to build confidence and sharing your thoughts.