When Should I Start My Child in Kindergarten?

The question of when to send your child to kindergarten can be a source of concern for many parents. This article aims to provide guidance based on personal experiences and general considerations to help you make an informed decision.

Personal Experiences

Starting at Age 4: I had two children who both started kindergarten at the age of four. Both were already reading, and they appeared more mature than their peers. They both went away to college at 17 and finished their degrees in their early twenties. I ensured they were well-prepared for the responsibilities of being 18 before they left home, and senioritis was mild. I enjoyed their senior years as they were not 18 yet.
Starting at Age 5: The other two children of mine were born in October and started kindergarten when they were almost six. Senioritis was far more pronounced, and they complained that they were adults and could make their own decisions. They didn’t heed my advice or follow rules as their younger siblings did.

Physical Development

Is your child on the taller side or the shorter side? If she is taller than most of her peers, she might feel different or weird if she waits until she is six to start kindergarten. Conversely, if she is shorter than most of her peers, she might feel different or weird starting kindergarten when she turns five. However, most kids in pre-K and early elementary school do not care about each other’s appearances or physical attributes. They will play with anyone as long as they are nice. But around late elementary or middle school, physical differences and appearances start to matter more.

Readiness for Kindergarten

Is your child socially and academically ready for kindergarten? It's about more than just age; it's about readiness. Has your child been to pre-school and shown an affinity for group activities? Can she sit for long periods and follow directions and rules? Is the school system one that she will thrive in? Does she want to go to kindergarten? Understanding these factors is crucial.

Case Study: Early Starters

I have twins who are December babies and started kindergarten at the age of four. Despite the school pushing for a year's delay, they were ready. One twin craved socialization, while the other was eager to learn to read independently. The school was concerned about basic skills, but we insisted on helping them learn these skills. Both graduated high school at 17 and college at 21, while another son struggled and is still living at home at 30.

The twins and I had a significant disagreement with the school, but we stood firm and prevailed. This unique educational journey proves that every child is different, and the school’s perspective might not be the best for all. It's important to trust your instincts and make the final decision based on your child's individual needs and your own knowledge of them.

Conclusion

Deciding when to start your child in kindergarten is a personal choice. It's crucial to consider your child's physical, social, and intellectual readiness, as well as your own judgment and trust. While the school may offer guidance, their perspective might not align with your child's unique needs. Good luck in making this important decision!