The Role of Parents in College Admissions Interviews: Insights and Perceptions

College admissions interviews can be a critical step in the process of student selection. Traditionally, these interviews have been conducted between the student and the college representative. However, with changing dynamics and more emphasis on parental involvement, it has become increasingly common for students to bring their parents to these interviews. This article delves into the perspectives of several experts, exploring the implications of parental involvement in college admissions interviews and how it affects both the interview process and the overall decision-making process for students.

Interviewing Alone vs. with a Parent

Paul Green, an experienced college admissions interviewer, has carved out a perspective based on his vast experience. In an interview, Paul emphasized that there is no issue with a parent accompanying their child. He deemed it beneficial, as it fosters a smoother conversation and allows for a better exchange of information. Paul noted, "As an interviewer, it wouldn't bother me a bit, and it could help with the exchange of information." However, he also highlighted that any such arrangement should be the student's decision and should not be pushed by the parents.

Recalling experiences from a decade ago, another expert noted that parent accompaniment was rare. Special needs students were the primary cases where a parent was expected to be present. However, with evolving times and increased parental involvement, the scenario has changed. "If it is more routine today, I suspect I would agree fully with Paul Green's assessment," the expert remarked. This shift in expectation has led to a more inclusive approach towards parental involvement in the interview process.

Support System and Overbearing Parents

Having both interviewed students and advised them, another expert argued that the applicant student should be the primary focus of the interview. While the parent can provide emotional support during moments of nervousness, it’s crucial to maintain a balance. The expert commented, "I think its a smart student and a smart Mom. Some kids believe choosing a school should be totally up to them, and the parents should stay out of it. If the parents are involved financially, they have as much right and obligation as the child during the decision-making process." This perspective underscores the importance of involvement while ensuring that the student remains at the center of the decision-making process.

For cases where a student struggles with confidence, a parent's involvement can be a significant source of comfort. An expert who has conducted numerous interviews stated, "That he needs support and someone to calm him down during nervousness. And even if he fucks up in the interview, someone to tell him that it’s fine and everything that will happen will be for his own good. And if the interview goes well, then someone to share his happiness with." However, this support must not overshadow the student's ability to shine during the interview.

Setting Expectations for Independence

A further aspect to consider is the potential negative impact of parental involvement on the interview process. One view holds that the student's independence should be the primary focus during the interview. A robust argument against parental presence was made by an expert who believes that the student needs to take center stage. "I think it's a net negative from the school's perspective. And perhaps also for the student. This is a moment where the student has to shine—not the parent!"

The argument here is that the interview should be an opportunity for the student to demonstrate their independence and readiness for the academic challenges ahead. By participating in the interview alone, students can build confidence and demonstrate their preparedness. As one expert concluded, "Mom or Dad find a coffee shop and hang out there. Your kid will text you when it’s done. Please." This concise and clear suggestion highlights the importance of separating the roles of parent and child during the interview process.