Unmasking the Narcissist: One Thing That Shouldn't Have Been Ignored

Actions speak louder than words, and in my case, the actions of my ex-narcissist spoke volumes. They screamed louder than any words from his hateful mouth. While he would take his time to profess love, his actions told a different story. Here's one thing that was off with my ex that I could not ignore now.

Unmistakable Red Flags: Stonewalling and Manipulation

I've always believed that actions speak louder than words, and when it comes to my ex-narcissist, his actions screamed louder than any word he uttered. He would go great lengths to avoid saying "I love you" directly, making it seem as though he only did so when it was convenient for him.

One instance I remember vividly was when I slipped up and told him I loved him during sex. He was uncomfortable and clearly turned off by the expression of affection during such intimate moments. This was just one of many red flags that I failed to notice. Every time he tried to hide his feelings with a voice that had a 'girly' accent, it was clear he didn't truly mean it.

The Turning Point: Uncomfortable Rejection

There was a particularly painful moment when I shared my feelings with him during sex. He retracted and responded with, "Please don't tell me you love me when we are having sex. It really just makes me uncomfortable and turns me off actually." The stark honesty he expressed was accompanied by an unsettling sense that he was letting me down gently. It was a turning point I should have heeded, but I was too blind to see the bigger picture.

Isolation and Brainwashing

While the situation was not all bad, there were many concerning aspects. I was isolated and bullied, beaten, and abused in the middle of nowhere. I lived in a rented RV on a private horse pasture, about 1500 acres, which was a long walk from the nearest neighbor. I had no one to turn to, and I was brainwashed into thinking it wasn't as bad as it seemed. However, the reality was far from comforting.

Unscathed Memories and Unforgiven Mistakes

There were some bittersweet memories, but I lost more than I can replace during that period. I was used for money and sex, and my ex-narcissist had no higher intentions beyond these motivations. I was deluded into thinking I was everything to him when in reality, I was never more than a tool. His actions did not lie, and I should have paid attention to the signs.

Lessons and Moving Forward

This experience has taught me valuable lessons. I will never again fall victim to similar scenarios, and I hope to help others recognize the warning signs early. My advice to those who find themselves in a similar situation is to trust your instincts and seek help if you feel you are being deceived or abused.

Remember, actions speak louder than words, and when it comes to emotional and physical health, they are the ultimate indicator of the truth.

Conclusion

In conclusion, the red flags were clear, and now I can see them more clearly than ever. The act of putting aside my feelings to be with someone who clearly wasn't genuine was a significant mistake. I am determined to make better choices in the future and to help others avoid similar heartbreaks and emotional abuse.