Why Do Nepalis Feel Affronted by Indians and How Can Indians Improve Relations
Peace be upon you all. Often, the response to statements about Nepali sentiments towards Indians is, “Not all Nepalis hate them.” However, it is a fact that a significant number of Nepalis carry profound feelings of hurt, shame, disrespect, and ultimately, racism that are outwardly displayed not just in India but even in Nepal. Understanding and acknowledging these sentiments can foster better cross-cultural relations.
Prominent Feelings among Nepalis:
When Indian citizens visit Nepal, and they make Nepalis feel inferior and less valued, the resulting emotional response is understandable. Many Indian citizens display a very rude and arrogant manner when conversing with Nepalis. While it is true that not every Indian citizen embodies this behavior, it is crucial to address the broader societal issue.
The concept of “basic human decency” cannot be overstated. Simple courtesy and respect in language and behavior are fundamental in fostering dignity and mutual respect. Unfortunately, many non-Hindi speakers, regardless of state or region, make derogatory remarks about facial features and linguistic nuances. These remarks often use culturally and racially insensitive terms, causing deep hurt and frustration among Nepalis.
Empathy and Understanding:
The cultural and linguistic richness of every nationality must be celebrated rather than denigrated. Nepali citizens visiting India are welcomely guests and do not make inappropriate and racist comments. While some Nepalis may have engaged in worse behavior, the overarching sentiment is one of hurt and humiliation due to the rude and disrespectful behavior projected by a segment of Indian citizens.
It is not only hate but also humiliation and loss of dignity that shakes the sense of self-respect. Gradually, this hurt is often mirrored in a manner that is equally rude and disrespectful, causing tension on both sides. It is important to reflect on our actions and strive for better interpersonal relations.
Addressing Misplaced Pride:
As individuals who work to help and provide advice, we must be mindful of our actions. It is understandable to be passionate about one’s country, but believing that “Nepal is greater,” “India is superior,” or similar assertions does not contribute positively to the relationship. Instead, promoting unity and mutual respect can lead to a more harmonious coexistence.
India and Nepal share a rich cultural, religious, and geographical heritage. Historical support and aid from India have been significant. Acknowledging these facts and focusing on a shared future can move the relationship forward. Continually emphasizing political and religious differences only perpetuates divisiveness.
Creating Inclusivity and Respect:
Nepalis must reflect on and address domestic racism and ethnic biases. It is high time for every Nepali to challenge these sentiments, both within themselves and in societal attitudes. Being kind and understanding is not a virtue to question but an approach to nurture. Blaming others for problems we create only perpetuates the cycle of conflict.
Conclusion:
Our actions as individuals will shape the future of our nations. Embracing kindness, respect, and a willingness to learn from one another is the path forward. We must rise above narrow-minded nationalism and work towards a better, more inclusive, and respectful relationship. Let us be the positive change we hope for in others. Be the “good civil” person you desire others to be. Be the change.